Let me start with a confession: I avoided going to the doctor because I gained weight. I knew something was wrong—I felt exhausted, weak, and just off—but instead of scheduling an appointment, I told myself, “Lose twenty pounds first, then go. You’ll feel better.” Spoiler alert: I didn’t feel better.

I felt worse. And worse. Until I ended up severely anemic and hospitalized for seven days. That’s when they diagnosed me with sarcoidosis. Looking back, I can’t help but think: If I had just gone to the doctor when I first started feeling bad, maybe things wouldn’t have gotten so serious.

The Courage to Show Up

Going to the doctor isn’t always easy. It can be scary, overwhelming, and even intimidating. But showing up takes courage. You’re putting yourself first, saying, “I deserve to feel better, and I’m going to do what it takes to get there.”

At its best, a doctor’s office is a place where you’re supported and cared for—a place where someone helps you on your journey to better health. But I’ll be honest: not every doctor is like that.

What If You Get a Bad Doctor?

Here’s the thing: doctors are human, too. Just like any profession, not everyone is great at their job, and you may come across one who leaves you feeling judged, dismissed, or unheard. If that happens, let me tell you right now: you don’t have to stay with them.

You are your own best advocate. If a doctor doesn’t make you feel comfortable or respected, it’s okay to find someone else. Ask your friends and family for recommendations. Read reviews. Even “interview” doctors until you find one who feels like the right fit for you.

Finding the right doctor is like finding a good hairstylist—it takes a little effort, but once you do, it’s a game-changer. The right doctor will listen, support you, and make you feel empowered about your health.

The Power of Prevention

When I finally started going to my appointments, I learned that my health markers were improving. My iron levels got better, my sarcoidosis became manageable, and my energy began to return. Those small wins added up, and they made me realize something: doctor visits aren’t just for fixing what’s broken. They’re for preventing bigger problems down the road.

It’s like changing your car’s oil before the engine starts making weird noises. It’s not glamorous, but it keeps everything running smoothly.

A Judgment-Free Zone—With the Right Doctor

When you find the right doctor, they’re not sitting there to roll their eyes at you. They’re there to help. Even if you’re not at your healthiest, showing up is what matters. The courage to say, “Something isn’t right, and I need help” is far more important than any number on a scale.

And if you ever feel judged or dismissed, remember: that’s not a reflection of you. It’s a reflection of them. You deserve better, and it’s okay to walk away and find a doctor who sees your worth.

It’s Never Too Late

I wish I could go back and tell myself, “Go to the doctor now. Don’t wait until you lose weight. Don’t wait until you feel worse. Just go.” I can’t change what happened, but I can share my story in the hopes it helps someone else.

If you’ve been putting off an appointment because you’re scared, embarrassed, or had a bad experience before, know that you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel that way, but it’s even better to push through it. Call, schedule, and show up. That’s all it takes to start taking care of yourself.

Celebrate the Small Wins

Every time you go to the doctor, you’re taking a step toward a healthier, happier you. And if you need a little extra motivation, think about this: your health isn’t just about you. It’s about being there for the people you love—and they want you at your best.

So be brave. Take that first step. And if the first doctor isn’t right, find one who is. Because you deserve the kind of care that makes you feel supported, respected, and ready to take on the world.

You’ve got this.

-Kelly