We are down to the wire peeps! One more week and Oprah is going to have to get a side hustle because I will no longer be paying for Weight Watchers.
I did it!
It still doesn’t feel real to me. I gained .2 at weigh in, which is not freaking me out in the least bit and is a major, major achievement.
“Regular” people fluctuate a pound or two in weight. It is going to take me a bit to get used to being “normal”, but I am on my way.
But am I regular?
I must admit I have never been accused of being normal once in my entire life.
I’m talking about my size though. Is my size regular? Normal? According to some people that is a no.
I’m talking compli-stomping people. I really didn’t want to delve into the underbelly of negativity that comes with weight loss, but I see so many people that hear so many bad things.
You are not alone.
In case you don’t know what a compli-stomp is here’s the 411: Someone starts off with something that sounds similar to a compliment, but turn it around to something negative.
Passive aggressive bullshit to put it bluntly. I HATE passive aggressive.
Here’s an example that I used in a previous post:
“Oh so you are losing weight…………………………….Again.”
It started out as something nice until she tilted her head and smiled at me like someone smiles at a two year old and said again.
“You have done so good! Wow! How much more do you have to go?”
I’m at goal.
“Oh how nice that you can be confident enough to still be bigger!”
Or another stomp that is a personal favorite after asking the how much more question:
“After all that hard work don’t you want to be regular sized?”
Considering most women are a size 12 and I’m a size 6 now I’d have to say that no, no I don’t want to be regular sized. Another fan favorite:
“Really????” when I said I was at goal.
Some others off the top of my head:
“It’s to bad you didn’t lose more from the top, you’d look a lot smaller if you did.”
“It’s got to feel incredible to lose that much! It’s to bad though, because at your age I’m sure you need to get plastic surgery for all the skin you must have!”
“You look great! You should probably put 10 pounds back on though because you look older now.”
You people don’t even want to know what has been said to me on the Internet.
My point is that this is going to happen to you if you start to change your life.
When you start changing and there is a noticeable difference people feel entitled to tell you their opinion because you had the nerve to do something about your situation. Yes, I’m sure some of it stems from jealousy, but most of it comes from that person being hurt.
Happy people that lead good lives do not set out to intentionally hurt others.
I’ve said that before on here, and every time I get a compli-stomp that’s the mantra I repeat over and over in my head until the urge to choke the every-loving crap out of them goes away.
My point is this is going to happen to you if you start to change your life, and you need to know how to deal with it. I wish I could say some people won’t, but I am far to realistic to make that prediction.
It’s human nature unfortunately and it can derail you if you let it. I have seen countless posts of people that are hurt by their Mothers, Husbands, Wives, Co-Workers, Friends….You name it they’ve had it.
You need to try, and I mean try because it is so hard to not take these kinds of comments to heart, to remember the source of these types of compli-stomps – they are coming from someone who is just not happy or someone that wishes like crazy they could do what you are doing.
It takes the sting out a bit. I mean I can look at pictures and know that I’m not “still huge” as some people have messaged me (no joke).
I can admit it – sometimes they make me rethink my goal. I mean technically I could lose more. I’m about in the middle of the healthy weight range for my height. Why should I let someone who is not happy make me not happy?
I’m not going to let them do that to me. You shouldn’t either.
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